A common issue Millennials are experiencing right now is many of their peers don’t want to go on traditional dates. They’re just looking for to hook up. Millennials were born into the age of the internet. Naturally they would go online to find partners to date. However, this doesn’t always create the best environment.
Tinder is one of the most popular dating apps on college campus’. However, this is not the dating style our parents and grandparents were used to. It is so common to get a first message containing inappropriate sexual content on Tinder it has became expected. Whatever happened to courtship and romance? How did it become socially acceptable to receive these inappropriate messages? Many classy young people want to go on nice first dates, instead of just hooking up. Receiving these messages make some people feel like they aren’t being respected. A big part of being classy is respecting yourself and others. The sender of those inappropriate sexual messages are not classy and they certainly are not respecting you. Do you really want to be around someone who doesn’t respect you?
The pressure to hook up on a first date or early on in a relationship is insanely high for college age people. No one should be pressured or pressuring people into doing something they don’t want to do. A classy date should entail going for coffee, dinner, or something like that. Going on a date like this demonstrates that both people have enough respect for the other person that they want to get to know them. They like the person for their mind, not their body. This is something I believe is getting lost in our generation; people aren’t taking the time to get to know their partners. How can you plan to be in a relationship with someone if you don’t know them. Going on a dinner date allows you to see if your personalities are compatible. You will not be compatible with every person you go on a date with. And that is OKAY!
So the question remains; is it possible for Millennials’ to be classy and date? I believe it is. It may be more difficult for our generation than our parents, but it is possible. There are people out there who want to get to know you. It’s important to surround ourselves with people who respect us. We must stop allowing it to be socially acceptable for people to send sexually inappropriate first messages and pressuring people into hooking up. It’s not classy, respectful, or okay.